I'm still learning how to handle intense emotions. It's like I've got training wheels on my emotional self management. But at least I know what to do now when the darkness starts to wrap itself around me - I use positive alternate thoughts to counter my distorted thoughts.
For me that means reminding myself that I'm a good wife, a good mother, a good daughter, and a good friend. That I am not alone even if no one happens to be with me at the moment. And that I'm loved and loveable. Sounds crazy, right? But I promise you that it works. Better than antidepressants. Way better than binge shopping, binge eating, or binge anything, really.
So I still feel sad and that's OK, but I don't feel that crushing sadness that makes me question whether I deserve to exist, so I'll keep talking to myself because it works.