Monday, June 27, 2011

Trying to be clever is exhausting

I keep reading advice about how to build your blog readership, how to build relationships with brands, how to make your blog easier for search engines to find - you know, that kind of thing. And, while I know that I should pay more attention, I just can't get excited about it.

So imagine my joy when I was reading about a blogger collective organization I was considering joining and finding that they want "positive people" - seriously? Would you trust someone who was supposedly writing about their real life and was uniformly positive? But then I started second guessing myself and wondering if I should try to be more positive in my public life? What if I'm turning off potential readers with my Debbie Downer, depression-fueled whining and self absorption?

And then I remembered why I started writing here, why I still love to come here.

Honesty. And a safe place for introspection.

And that means that if I'm having a tough day, I might write about that here. Or on a day when I'm frustrated that more than one slice of a mini pizza at a time is a thing of the past for me? You will probably hear about it if you drop by to read, as I haven't yet mastered the feat of substituting kale chips and the like for my favorite - and now forbidden - foods.

No, I'm not uniformly positive and I'm probably too old to change that now, so take me as I am. Or not.

Now that I think about it, I'm too old and too unrepentantly fat for that group anyway. Eh...their loss.


Linda said...

Exactly. But I do think you are positive - you are making positive changes in your life. That doesn't mean there aren't ups and downs, or that you shouldn't use your own blog as a way to express your feelings. If they are opposed to that - then you are right, that's not the right group for you. Definitely wouldn't be for me either.

Matilda444 said...

Their loss.

Cammy said...

I'm coming from the opposite side of the spectrum: one of those annoyingly positive people. I figure people will just have to accept that. I'm not about to start making up fake miseries just to gain a few readers. :)

These are OUR spaces. They serve to help us help ourselves, to help kindred spirits know they're not alone, and to give others an opportunity to provide a friendly word. And the folks who don't fit into one of those groups can find plenty of other blogs to read.

I haven't noticed you being dreary, but if that's how you feel on any given day, roll with it. It's the best way I know to work yourself out of the mood.

Rebecca @ Operation Skinny Jeans said...

Just found your blog through a series of blog hopping this afternoon. I have to agree with you. I would absolutely never follow a blog that was all "everything's peachy keen" everyday. That's not real life. You can have a positive outlook, even when things are negative, but life isn't all good. It's up and down and all's altogether great, but really? All good would be kinda boring. Especially in a weightloss blog...'cause we all know all good days would be a straight up lie. Keep up the honesty...people are reading.

Amanda said...

Just found your blog though random blog hopping and I LOVE it. Particularly because you aren't the perfect-everything-is-amazing-and-always-happy healthy living blogger that there tends to be a lot of. I look forward to reading more posts:-)