Saturday, May 27, 2006

Baby steps (oh, baby!)

Saturday morning. I almost typed in "Sunday morning" because that's how it feels for me.

Yesterday was spent running nearly every errand I've needed to do for months and haven't had time for, then watching TCB kick butt at putting furniture together, installing new kitchen lighting (I hated the old, fluorescent fixture SO MUCH), and installing all new fixtures in the upstairs bath. He also changed the filter on my ice cube maker (woohoo, now I won't have to wait three days for enough ice to make my beloved iced green tea) and the bulb in my front porch light. I really am a lucky girl.

And then, this morning, after a mind-blowing wake up, he actually initiated a discussion about one of the things that's been bothering me. Which means it's been bothering him, too. Which means we're on the same page. Yippee! Not that I'm glad we have issues, but if we're going to have them, I feel better knowing that it's not just me dreaming things up to worry over. Plus there was the wake up, too. I communicated when things didn't feel right (I never do that) and it was just amazing. More amazing than it's been since probably last summer. Seriously.

Small steps but progress all the same.

3 comments:

snackiepoo said...

That truly IS how you know your relationship is a good one, because we ALL have issues but if you are on the same page, at least you know you both think the same way. I often ask Shawn...."do we have an elephant?". And 9 out of 10 times, he will say yes and it will be the same elephant in the room that I've been trying to avoid as well :).

Mother of Invention said...

Yes, this is a good baby step, to put things out on the table. The sooner this is done, the sooner you can deal with whatever and come to grips with what changes you have to make, even if they are happy or difficult. Better to know now, so you can move on from, or forward with this relationship.

You were both brave to do this and open the door to make it easier to do this from now on.
And you're not alone..you wouldn't believe how many people don't talk about the issues they should!

Good luck with this, Denise!

Alda said...

Wow, has it really been a year that you've been together? How time flies...

How wonderful that you're communicating and that things are going so well. He certainly does sound like a keeper. :)